Some personal thoughts after the jump.

"Anon" (tjsielsistneb)
03/02/2014 at 01:31 • Filed to: None

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Have you ever felt like running away? Not for any particular reason, just because you feel like your life has just become stale. Hey maybe it's just me! But I don't feel like I'm getting anything out of life. I feel like it's affected me and that I've become bitter because I see other people happy. I've become extremely critical of people and because of that I don't really want to hang out with anyone. I think maybe I've convinced myself that maybe if I go away to somewhere far away maybe things will be better, but I don't really think it will. I think the problem is maybe me, maybe I'm not critical of people because I have no fulfillment in my life, maybe I have no fulfillment because I had a bad day one day and was bitter and that caused the next day to be bad and so on. I don't like being this way and I want to be able to like people but I just can't. The problem is that the longer this goes on the worse it gets. All I really want is for people to want to hang out with me but I honestly don't blame them for not wanting to hang out with me. I just don't really know what to do.

DISCUSSION (10)

ddavidn > Anon
03/02/2014 at 01:34

Yes I have thoughts like this. I'd never act on them, though.

Also some of us just act happy, but we're bitter a fair amount of the time.

Man, everyone is bringing out the feels tonight.

MoparKetchup > Anon
03/02/2014 at 01:37

Are you telling us that the Alex we know in Oppo is not the same person in real life? Because by the looks of your posts you seem like an easy-going person to hang out with.

CRider > Anon
03/02/2014 at 01:40

Just gotta keep on keepin' on and hope it gets better.

6cyl > Anon
03/02/2014 at 02:22

Here's my 2¢: learn a new skill. Maybe an art like sculpting or metal working or glass blowing. Or maybe a martial art like judo or akido. Or maybe take a class in machining or programming or photography or web design.

1) you will meet new people outside your potentially "stale" current social network

2) you will have new experiences and conversation points to bring to the table with your current social network

3) ideally you get to learn some cool shit that you feel excited about

Laird Andrew Neby Bradleigh > Anon
03/02/2014 at 02:27

Hello mate, you're still young (yeah, I know that's a stupid thing to say, but I'll say it anyways). I used to feel that way when I was younger, then things got better. And things DO get better. You seem like a likeable guy, there's no reason people should OR would avoid you.

BUT... Listen to me now mate.. I have screwed things up, and I do not want you to do the same thing.. I've been a bitter and lonely person for the last ten years, mostly my own fault. I do have friends, tons of them really.. but noone I can actually TALK with... Because to my friends I've always been this happy go lucky dude...

What am I saying here? Well... If you feel the need to talk, make sure that you actually tell your friends, and do it NOW. Waiting is not a good thing when it comes to things like this. And I can assure you that you have friends, you might not see it straight away, but you do.

Pitchblende > 6cyl
03/02/2014 at 06:19

This would have been my advice, you need to mix up what you do a little and learning something new is a great way of doing that. There must be something you've always wanted to be better at, whether it is painting or baking. Did something similar myself last year.

Howdy Harrell > 6cyl
03/02/2014 at 13:53

I agree with this guy^

Try and pick up seriously lifting. Its a great stress reliever and a great way to constantly push yourself to be your best. Plus.... girls at the gym are hot?
Shit if you are looking to enthrall yourself into a new community join Crossfit. Those folks have a seriously strong community.

Supreme Kiwi Zorro > Anon
03/02/2014 at 17:55

Oh no, Alex's gone stale! * revises my recipe *

I suggest you try these:

Stop using profanity because it can drive people away.

Open your mind more to new hobbies and interests because not everyone is into anime and/or cars.

Join a club that is more civil than those ones that party all the time. Parties wear you out quicker.

Go to less parties if you do. Parties are for flakes who are only there for free drinks and food. It's not recommended to meet people at parties because they'll forget who you are in a day or two.

Find someone who can love you. Lad or lassie, they can love you the same. Get married and have kids if you can.

Spend less time on the Internet.

Go explore the world with your close friend if you have one.

If nothing works, antidepressants.

I never had that feeling because what I suggested worked for me. I've never used a bad word or went on antidepressants mind you. If they worked for me, they'll work for you too. :)

BeholdTheCamaro > Anon
03/02/2014 at 18:45

Best advice I can give is to try to live with no regrets. If an opportunity is in front of you, reach out and take it. Don't let it fall by the wayside. You will feel a lot better striving for something in the present than looking back and wishing you had done something different in the past.

Korea Miéville > Anon
03/03/2014 at 11:29

I think the most important thing is to realize that what you're feeling is a completely natural state of mind, that you will be in many times throughout your life. Popular culture tends to promote this idea that there is an ideal life out there, an ideal state of happiness where everything is optimal and you're completely fulfilled, like it's the summit of a mountain and you just have to get up there and everything will be OK forever.

But of course that's bullshit. Humans aren't made to live "happily ever after" and there is no summit where, once you get there, you're done. In reality, there are many summits. You get up there, things are good, and after a while you're ready to climb the next mountain.

That's why those times in life where you feel unfulfilled and down — and it isn't because of some catastrophe or illness — aren't aberrations or signs of your life going wrong. If you never had those times where everything feels stale and boring, when life seems gray and empty, you would never have any incentive to seek out new challenges. You'd never grow or expand your consciousness to include new experiences and new passions. Times like this are your brain's way of letting you know that you're ready to climb the next mountain. It's basically the fire under your ass that's getting you to get up and move. It's how I imagine animals who molt feel when they're ready to discard their old skins.

If you dwell on the negative emotions that are part of this state of mind — the bitterness, the dissatisfaction — you'll just become depressed and self-destructive. Instead, embrace what you're feeling as a natural signal that it's time for change, and use the energy you get from your agitation to fuel that change. At the heart of the dissatisfaction you're feeling, there's probably some seed that you may or may not be aware of. There's some unexplored interest, or an ambition that you haven't allowed yourself to pursue. Maybe what's happening is that underneath everything you're just not the same person that you were five years ago, but you're still living as if you were, and you're uncomfortable because your life just doesn't fit you anymore.